tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5919997957126989411.post7920543058951510994..comments2023-05-15T17:26:09.024+05:30Comments on Ladybug's field notes: Are you sure?Ladybughttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00614061304095078258noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5919997957126989411.post-69654960181797101572012-12-28T21:04:57.580+05:302012-12-28T21:04:57.580+05:30Your are brave to speak about this critical area. ...Your are brave to speak about this critical area. We need to continue solidarity on such issues so the debate can go on next level. Saadia Haqhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04022551940882328968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5919997957126989411.post-17615908918016263752012-11-26T11:58:47.990+05:302012-11-26T11:58:47.990+05:30To both Jui and Sudeshna, I have not been brave at...To both Jui and Sudeshna, I have not been brave at every occasion. I have my moments of shame too. Shame, not because someone harassed me or a fellow passenger but because I could not gather enough courage to stand up against it. I have also been badly let down by my male companions. They failed when the time came to stand up for your friend or relative. I have learnt either you decide you will take none of it and stand up for you rights or just forget it. No one else will take up your battle. And yes, I also make sure, I support women in public transports when they raise their voices against a harasser. In one such incident in a Delhi transport bus, we actually made a guy get down from the bus. The man was big, drunk and made obscene remarks but we did what we had to. I am often reminded its too risky but then unless we take that risk getting out of home everyday will remain a risk for every woman. Ladybughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00614061304095078258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5919997957126989411.post-58078753821993652552012-11-26T11:25:00.229+05:302012-11-26T11:25:00.229+05:30hmmm...
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I never had the guts to give it...hmmm...<br /><br />Good....<br /><br />I never had the guts to give it back. Rather than anyone reprimanding me for not being sure of my decisions, moves and motives....I had myself decided to crouch,bend inwards, close all doors of communication and sought self sympathy.....trying to reason out logically that finally it is me to be blamed. <br /><br />I wish I was as brave and clear in my mind like you and many of my other friends. I do not want my daughter to be like me. I also want her to be safe. I want her to be aware and alert. But the main thing I want her to learn is to be absolutely guilt free. She should not be self stigmatised at the first place. <br /><br />But even more importantly, I want my son to grow up understanding women and learn to respect human beings. <br /><br />Bhalo likhechish.....bhalo thakish.Sudeshnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05375013752241551151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5919997957126989411.post-17244990765963775352012-11-25T21:33:32.910+05:302012-11-25T21:33:32.910+05:30A sensitive piece of self introspection Nayana.We ...A sensitive piece of self introspection Nayana.We never try to write on this topic as we feel shy to tell our stories with the fear of being misunderstood or rather facing the questions that follow there after as you mentioned. "Why did I go out in the evening." If it is day time then the question changes it's pattern little bit- "Why did you go alone?"<br /><br />Really nobody acknowledges the crime committed by the molester. I think,Molestation is always done in a planned manner with a target in mind, it never happened by chance.<br />When I grew up from my stage of anger and instatnt reaction to anything that is wrong according to me, I started feeling pitty in this community of molesters.I started feeling bad for this ageless, caste & creedless, classless people that they do not have anything substantial to do....for them, no barrier of age, relationship,class, place or anything matters but a momentary pleasure. I am not even sure if they actually get any pleasure or not but just feels huanted to commit the crime.<br /><br />This patriarchial society always supports the community of molesters by not condemning themselves but asking questions to the victim themselves - "Are you sure?"<br /><br />At least we should talk diectly with our close family members to create sensitivity among our near and dear ones.<br />By Jui Gupta. (juigupta@gmail.com) <br />November 25, 2012 7:54 AMLadybughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00614061304095078258noreply@blogger.com